Self--Image: Accepting Feedback

Last week we talked about how to cultivate a good self-image. While I believe it is important for everyone to have a good self-image, I think it is especially important for leaders. Over the next few weeks, we will discuss why a good leader needs a good self-image, and how possessing a good self-image can make someone a better leader. 

I think we can all agree that we should be open to feedback from those around us. People who are closed off to other’s opinions and teachings have stunted their own intellectual growth. No matter how smart you think you are, you should always be ready to learn from those around you. Each individual has a unique background with experiences that have taught him something you might not know. The smartest people are those who take in information from a diverse range of sources and collective experiences from many types of environments. 

We have all likely experienced a leader who is closed off to other’s opinions or puts too much weight in his own opinion. This person probably left a bad taste in your mouth. It’s off-putting when someone refuses to hear another person’s perspective. On the other hand, you might have also experienced a leader who listened to you as an intern or an entry-level employee, and that was a very positive and empowering experience for you. Whether or not that individual implemented your plan, the act of being open to your ideas raised your opinion of that leader and contributed to that person’s overall decision making. In some cases, these ideas can be the best ones because they come from someone who is not too close to the situation. Leaders who do not make themselves open to other’s opinions can miss these great ideas and make their employees unhappy at the same time. 

So how does this relate to self-image? Well, in some cases, a leader who doesn’t want to hear other opinions is actually just insecure and would view taking an idea from an entry-level employee as a sign of weakness or incompetence. While that individual might view making decisions on their own as a confident, strong move, it might be rubbing people around them the wrong way. Additionally, bad decisions can be made when there is no consensus on the matter. If one person makes a decision by himself, it is subject to that person’s emotions and biases. Having a good self-image will make a leader more comfortable with other’s perceptions of him and will keep him from letting ego get in the way of good decision making. Start practicing being open to other’s opinions. Right now, our nation is divided on a lot of issues. It is an easier time than ever to find someone with an opposing opinion. Don’t compromise your beliefs but use it as a training ground for hearing other people out. Developing this skill will make you a better, more well-perceived leader.

-       Bria